I have always struggled with this concept. Should people be judged on what they have done in the past? Should we dwell on things that have happened in the past? Whatever has happened in the past has already happened, right, so shouldn’t we just accept that and move on? This has got me thinking and we all seem to end up okay in the end. So should we stop dwelling and judging from the past and move on, or is it good to reflect back and work on ways to change and improve certain aspects of our life?
As you can see, I really meant it when I said I struggle with this concept, there are so many ways to view it and so many questions to be answered! I think what it is, is that I used to look back to the past more than I now think is necessary. I still agree that we can learn a great deal from our mistakes and successes, but once we have reflected on those things, it’s time to dust ourselves off and move on with our lives. As my mum used to always tell me ‘there is no point worrying about the things you can not change’. In the case of those successes that we have achieved, be proud of those moments and take this as an initiative to achieve more in the future. When it comes to other people, should we judge people on what they have done in the past? Does this reflect how they are as a person, or have they just made some mistakes like the rest of us and is it possible for people to change? We always seem to judge people more on the negative things they have done rather than the positive. I think this outlook should also be changed. Why should we ignore all the good things that people have done based on that on mistake. If you have made the decision to be friends with somebody, be in a relationship with somebody or work closely with somebody, whatever the situation may be, if we have made the decision to have somebody in our lives do we need to accept them as they are and form a friendship based on the ways in which they behave whilst in our lives?
I think it’s time to stop looking into the past to shape our futures and judge other people and start looking to the present and the future, which essentially is the life you have yet to live, what can be more important with that?
This is the best that I can answer these questions as of present, but who knows how my opinion will change towards this topic.
I would love other opinions on this topic, which parts do you agree with or disagree with, and what are your thoughts on the past?
Paris love x